I can't help but feel glad that I didn't have this type of parent (YES, it IS a TYPE) as a young swimmer.
Secondly, yes, put them under her bed. What the hell does that tell your kid. I would not be so cruel.
And lastly, yes I am asking for advice but you have made this topic about ME rather than the original topic which I believe was something to the extent of "what makes a 9 year old kid so fast" Look at the topic title please.
I don't see a need to wallpaper my daughter's room in her ribbons. She knows her achievements. I'm not sure why putting her ribbons in a box for safe keeping is cruel but I'll ask her if she feels like less of a swimmer because of it.
Try this for a week - don't go to your daughter's practices and see if it makes her any better or worse. I promise you this - the other swimmers and parents might be a bit relieved, but I could be supid about the whole thing.
I think you are right on Kristen which is why I do not push my daugter to swim very many meets and burn out. Hell, she doesn't even compete during the summer. Sort of a break I guess.
I agree with you that a 9 year old WANTS their pearents involved but in later years the are mature enough to do things on their own and don't need the parental support as much.
For me to show no interest in a 9 year old girls love of swimming in my mind is horrible.
I think you make very valid points.
I think that there is fresh blood in the water...
The question has been answered: the 9 yo in question has TALENT.
Any other posts are just getting inflammatory.
FYI, my daughter fell asleep with her trophies on her bed this past summer. If I can find the picture I will post it. Absolutely hysterical. We DO NOT promote the ideas of ribbons, medals, and trophies as I mentioned- more the fun and effort, and yet she was SO proud of her accomplishments. Cracked me up!
I have given you post after post explaining how I am at her practices and at her meets and you simply refuse to believe any of it and for that I cannot do anything.
I go to her practices because I love to watch my daughter swim. If you want to ignore your kid go ahead but i do not. Want to know what kind of parents act like fools at meets? I've been to my daughters and most of the are moms. Just a fact.
I suggest you re-read some of my posts and really look hard at what I was telling you. If you do you will know that I am not disrupting, over-reacting or anything to that extent about her swimming.
The 2000lb gorilla in the room:
We all know swim parents who are over-zealous terds. What defines this kind of parent:
1) Interferes with the coach
2) Moves swimmer from team to team
3) Compares child to of others incessantly
4) Poor speller
5) Is completely unaware of true nature and insists that they are just a good parent.
I think we can safely say that our friend DAC qualifies most strongly on the 4th point, but the rest we don't really know. The best we can do is say is good luck.
PS: I am a poor speller and a good parent. UH-OH!
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Also, different people give different quality in different areas. Let me explain: A Flyer would benefit learning from Phelps as he won the gold in fly (yes, others too, I know) at the olympics. But if I wanted to learn backstroke techniques, I would to Aaron Perisol.
So, RAC, take advantage of any clinics and camps that you possibly can. You daughter will learn SO MUCH MORE getting info from different people.
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As a parent of a two young ones, both of which are very involved in sports, my opinion is just to let her be a nine year old.
I think that the life skills that childen learn from sports is far more important than being concerned with performance.
Just kick back and enjoy the ride.
#2. She's only been on one team so far.
#3. Everyone does that in their minds and if they say they don't they are not telling the truth.
4.Can't help that, sorry.
5. My daughter is a straight A student and in 4 years never had lower than an A. Was one the best swimmers on her team including the 10, 11 and 12 year olds.
If that makes me a bad parent then I want to be the worst one out there. Perhaps YOUR kid will be serving MY kid a burger through the drive-up window one day.
I don't think crazy helicopter parenting discriminates between man and woman.
Does Ion have a nine year old daughter and a new screen name?
Yur right, she is very humble sometimes too much so.
Anyways, she has practice right after school tonight and I'll remember some of the good advice here. You won't see me hovering, screaming, questioning, rolling my eyes, sighing, mocking, banging, waving my arms or any of that.
I will do what I have always done, sit and watch and not say anything when practice is over.
No, I've paid too much attention. I'm really sorry if I have you "pegged" incorrectly, it's just that the things you said sounded incredibly like the swimming parents I remember knowing so well when I was a kid. Please understand, I've seen so much of it! I really can't know if you are like that. If you are not, I'm very sorry. Even if you are that sort of parent, I know that you're only doing it because it is your way of being a good parent.
So, no more "stones". I sincerely wish you luck, and I hope that your child enjoys a terrific swimming career, one that will serve her well for her whole life. Kids learn so many things from swimming!
Truth is nobody knows. I can only do my best in helping her make the right decissions and leave it at that. Perhaps she will do well when she's older perhaps not but her education is #1 right now and that's where we don't let her slack much
Guess what, she went to a swim camp last year and met Megan Jendrick and Peter Vanderkayy (however you spell that) and she got to race against Megan in the breastroke.
Megan gave her a half pool length lead and it ended up a tie. My daughter could have beaten her though but it was too early in the morning.
My daughter has a book written by Jendrick on how to improve your swimming. Inside she autographed it "Follow your dreams, Megan Jendrick" I thought that was really cool of her.
Swimming with an olympian and holding those gold medals..pressure? nah! lol